Category: Dear MEL

May 22, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), Around 25 years ago, give or take a year, your grandma and I were sitting in a window booth at the Taco Bell on E. North Street having lunch. As we ate, a little girl — maybe a little younger than Lorenzo is now,…

May 18, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), I’d love to say there was a time where you could count on everything you read/heard in the media to be true, but there was probably never such a time. The late-19th-century yellow journalism period comes to mind as an easy example, but the choice…

May 15, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), You’re entirely forgiven if you look around at the world and think that you’re the only one in the middle of a struggle. On top of the ever-growing pile of terrible things we adults unwittingly teach you, please toss the notion that you must…

May 2, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), Remember that Sunday that Mia and I spent all. day. long. building that awful bridge out of popsicle sticks last year? It was for Mia’s accelerated science class and there were a slew of restrictions on the bridge: only four sticks could be touching…

April 24, 2017 / / Dear MEL

(Note: THIMBLES is my tortured acronym for THIngs you Must Be LEarning Before Setting Sail. Or, in simpler terms, things the kids have to learn before they leave my nest.) Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), If you could time-travel back to the 1980s when I was your age, you surely would…

April 21, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), Sooner or later, you’ll notice a stark disparity between the things we as a society say we value and the things we decide to shower with public recognition. You’d think they’d be one and the same, but they are not. All of us parents…

April 18, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), There is trouble ahead. Not for you, but for me. It’s well over a decade away, but I can already see it coming. I can already hear the faint train whistle and I can feel the slight vibration on the tracks. I feel it…

April 11, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra, Lorenzo), There are few things in life more powerful than an apology done right. You will witness this many times in your life, but far more often, you will witness the continued chaos and discomfort that’s perpetuated by the absence of a good apology. The reason apologies are so…

March 20, 2017 / / Dear MEL

(Note: This is the first THIMBLES article. THIMBLES is my tortured acronym for THIngs you Must Be LEarning Before Setting Sail. Or, in simpler terms, things the kids have to learn before they leave my nest.) Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra and Lorenzo), I was 13 years old when I picked up…

March 14, 2017 / / Dear MEL

Dear MEL (Mia, Ezra & Lorenzo), As you know, your father is a drunk. Despite the fact that you’ve never seen me drink a drop of alcohol — because I haven’t, since August 22, 2003, just shy of a year before Mia was born — I’m still an alcoholic. Reasonable…